“My son and his wife have worked hard. They try to do everything right. You couldn’t ask for a nicer pair of kids,” Adam said. “But this economy has been terrible, especially in their industry. There are just no jobs. So they’re moving back home, with us.”
Increasing numbers of adult children are moving back in with their parents, often with spouses, children, and pets in tow. To make the transition move smoothly, family dynamics experts recommend the following:
- Respect family identities: When you have more than one family under a single roof, it’s a good idea to give each family a separate, private living area. For many families, this means remodeling the basement. Talk to your Northborough building contractor about what your options are.
- Embrace fun spaces to be together. Highlight the positive aspects of living together as much as possible. Building strong family relationships can positively impact everyone’s physical and emotional health. Try to make communal spaces joyful. Porches, patios, and decks serve well as neutral ground to relax and enjoy each other’s company.
- Separate entranceways reduce stress: Family comings and goings can lead to stress and fighting. Separate entranceways means each family has a doorway to use without disturbing the other family. Your Northborough building contractor can help you assess what your choices are. If you’ve finished the basement, adding an entrance to the basement can also increase the amount of natural light that’s able to enter the space.
- Communicate with each other: Bringing families together doesn’t magically result in happiness and good times for everyone. It’s important to talk about how everyone is doing both before the families join, and on an ongoing basis as events move forward. Sharing a roof can impact many things for both families, from finances to family planning. Clear communication makes things easier.